tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008776387866637304.post5072268332913438080..comments2012-05-14T19:59:19.193-07:00Comments on Public Hero Private Villain: No Middle GroundPublic Hero Private Villainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06277421111576724619noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008776387866637304.post-74134754837127238092012-05-14T19:59:19.193-07:002012-05-14T19:59:19.193-07:00By the way, I like your "alias" and the ...By the way, I like your "alias" and the title of this blog. It speaks volumes.<br /><br />:-)ThirstyJonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355338922751748161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008776387866637304.post-71063549528596447062012-05-14T19:55:47.923-07:002012-05-14T19:55:47.923-07:00I can relate to the feeling of having lost element...I can relate to the feeling of having lost elements of belief that I once had and not being sure what to do in the current moment.<br /><br />A lot of what I thought would "work" as a Christian didn't really work at all. I had to ditch a lot of the "religious" stuff. I have been concerned at times that as I have thrown out some religious crud I may have also thrown out some good things. I am not always sure. I feel like I have been being rebuilt minus some of the crap.<br /><br />Having said all that, I would submit that sex within marriage is definitely worth waiting for, although there are battles there even within a marriage. There is no guarantee that everything will be easy with sex just because you are married now.<br /><br />One thing that might be worth a try would be to read the book of Song of Solomon. I couldn't guaranteed that it will help you in the formula sense, but it might.<br /><br />Only ditch the idea that it is about Christ and the Church and read it as a story of a romantic/erotic relationship between a man and his wife.<br /><br />My thoughts on the book: I do not think it was written by Solomon. I think it was written perhaps by a Levite or some other leader who was subtly rebuking Solomon for his man wives and touting the benefits and pleasures of marrying just one person.<br /><br />And there is an important repeated theme: "Do not waken love until it so desires."<br /><br />Basically: Romantic/Sexual/Erotic Love is awesome with the woman (or man) that you love and have married, it is as "strong as death" and should not be awakened "until it so desires" (when you are ready for the life long commitment of marriage and family).<br /><br />I was afraid to study the book at one point when I was still single (I am now married). I was concerned that it would stir up sexual desires when I had not good way to fulfill them. Much to my surprise the book actually inspired me and gave me a lot of internal incentive to continue to wait for my wife.<br /><br />She was and is worth the wait.<br /><br />If this encourages you - great. If it doesn't - feel free to print it off, make a paper airplane out of it and fly it into the nearest burning fireplace or bonfire.<br /><br />Blessings to you on your journey!ThirstyJonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355338922751748161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008776387866637304.post-21758550376128738822009-09-12T14:11:19.825-07:002009-09-12T14:11:19.825-07:00I know that I was SO frustrated that single Christ...I know that I was SO frustrated that single Christians have no outlet to be sexual. For me, I came to the realization that my sexuality is not wrong. It is a part of me. I am human, so I am sexual. I have had 4 relationships since I graduated from the honor academy, with different levels of sexual expression. Sex can be beautiful, but I also want any I engage in to be as an adult: consensual and safe. Sex does carry risks. It can be a spiritual experience as well. I hope this makes sense. My 2 cents, for what they're worth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008776387866637304.post-11041595746287793152009-09-06T13:13:39.464-07:002009-09-06T13:13:39.464-07:00That's a tough place to be...and I totally get...That's a tough place to be...and I totally get it. Wish I had answers for you.Recovering Alumnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08118927101030203407noreply@blogger.com